Advice to Parents
Make Dua for your children, on a daily basis & when you face challenges. Start early and pray for children who will be the delight of your heart and eyes.
Have a Vision for how you want to see your child in the next 15/20 years (this is not a career plan, think manners, character, accomplishments, experiences etc) make a strategic plan for all the factors that will be needed to get him/her there and start working
Make them God-Fearing. Not from a terrifying punishing Lord, but from a Gentle, Loving, Kind Allah who is proud of them and wants to see them succeed.
Teach them good manners & morals. The Prophet (SWT) told us ‘Make their manners & morals beautiful. This is the biggest reflection from parents.
Nurture your children to be appreciative and respectful of you. For example if you cook them a meal or take them out, teach them to say ‘Thank you mom for making this food’ or ‘Jazakallah dad for taking us out’, every time.
Let your children catch you doing good things. More powerful than lectures,
is to let your children see you in action. If you are visiting your aunt who is sick let them choose the gift and take them with you.
Choose Good Friends for your children. Don’t let them be chosen. Let them spend quality time in front of you. Sleepovers are not a good idea, especially as they get older. This is where they are going to learn the things you don’t want them to or worse.
Talk to your children, don’t spoil or over praise them. Keep talking to them at all ages, they are listening and recording. Times change and their childhood will be vastly different from yours. Read and keep up to date with what is happening in the world.
Courtesy ICCL Academy